|Thank You, merciful Father, for old friends and new ones!|
Friendship arises out of mere Companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some insight or interest or even taste which the others do not share and which, till that moment, each believed to be his own unique treasure (or burden). The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, "What? You too? I thought I was the only one."...
We had some sweet, new friends come and spend the morning with us one day last week! This new friend, a mom of a little boy also adopted from S's old country, had sent me this encouraging e-mail a few weeks ago, letting me know she was praying for me! It came at just the right time, on one of those days that seemed like it would never end! When I read her words, it made me cry! Someone understood...
Subject: from a fellow mom in the trenches
Hi Melanie --
I just needed to email you quickly to let you KNOW that yet another pray-er is on her knees for you. I have been praying for you for several months, but haven't taken the time to email...I pray for your strength. I pray for your hope in the Lord to increase and fill your heart with such JOY in the journey that you can just hardly stand it. I pray for you during the stinky diaper times, during the home school moments and most of all, during the rages.
We had some weeks of rages. I can relate to the bruises. However, I can't imagine doing it with the number of "littles" that you have. I had those littles once, but mine are all "bigs" now!!! We have a 17 yr. old, 15 yr. old, 14 yr old, 11 yr. old, 10 yr. old (our adopted son, Jonathan, from Bulgaria), and a 7 yr. old. When the chanting or rages were going on, our others kids were able to carry on with home school while Mommy dealt with the anguish. My 3 oldest are girls, and they are so handy in the kitchen that they can get a meal together for me when I am falling apart. So, my heart longs to come to your house one day with my 3 teenagers and just "be there" for you -- I just can't imagine doing what you are doing right now day after day.
Lord Jesus -- please give Melanie such comfort in Your sweet presence. Please bring super natural healing to little S's heart. Please give Melanie unbelievable hope in your GOODNESS and a settled sense of PEACE in her heart to trust You in Your wisdom in giving her so much on her plate right now. You do not make mistakes. You are our Sovereign and all powerful God who has perfect knowledge of what is going on in our lives, and how you WILL use it for your glory.
I will continue to pray...
Although our situations and our stories are entirely different, it was such an encouragement to know I was not alone in my struggles! Some days, it's easy to feel alone.
A few days later, she e-mailed me again and told me she wanted to bring her three teenage daughters to spend the morning with us, offering to keep the kids, go to the store for me, clean my house, or anything else that I needed! I was blown away by her willing and generous spirit! More tears filled my eyes!
When she and her beautiful girls showed up last week at my door, they were armed with a yummy meal, homemade cinnamon rolls, and a fun Thanksgiving craft to do with the boys. While Will had some one-on-one time with S, the girls gathered the boys at the table and made this fun wreath. Evie loved being held and receiving some undivided attention, and I had the luxury of getting to visit with this friend without any little ones to interrupt! :) It was hugely encouraging for me, and I was blessed by the sweet mercy of friendship!
The boys were so proud of their wreath! They had written things they were thankful for on the leaves, and if you can read the small print, you'll notice that one of the boys said he was thankful for his bed! I think, just maybe, he meant he was thankful for OUR bed, because that's where he's ended up the past few nights. See Mercy #59!
We ended the morning with a fun game of freeze tag in the backyard and a little jumping on the trampoline! Of course, S enjoyed meeting our new friends, too! We are so grateful for this sweet family and thankful that the Lord crossed our paths! We will continue praying for your family, and can't wait to see where the Lord leads y'all! :)
That same day, another friend surprised me at my back door with a pot of soup and some snacks! And get this! A little while later another knock at the door from a friend delivering a bag of clothes for S! Both of these friends have a houseful of their own little ones and both have newborns, and so I know what an effort they both made to get out of their houses and come to mine! You both know who you are, and I appreciate your friendship!
Another friend, just the other day, told me that she prays for me every single morning, and I know she means it! How glad I am that we are not alone, no matter how I might sometimes feel! We are surrounded by an awesome family and wonderful friends! We are part of a community, and this is mercy!
Therefore encourage one another,
and build up one another,
just as you also are doing...
And we urge you, brethren,
admonish the unruly,
encourage the fainthearted,
help the weak,
be patient with all men...
pray without ceasing;
in everything give thanks;
for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus.